Family Love X Friendship Love X Partner Love X Spiritual Love

To balance your Yin-Yang and hormones, you need the combination of the above 4. Consequently with health and money, you are invincible! Stress that I put LOVE above everythg else because it nourishes your body, makes you mentally healthy and makes you a rich and fulfiled person.

Family

They provide a safe haven for you. No matter what storms you brave outside, when you stepped into your house, you see that food prepared, bed made, house tidied, remote control 50cm away only, fridge packed with snacks and drinks, harmless naggings.. you are blessed. Family is the fundamental. You won't speak to them all about your stuff, but when the worse comes to the worst, somehow they will know it because somehow you will turn to them, somehow they will be your last resort, and somehow they can solve your problem ;P Not everybody has this luxury. Once taken away, all you can do is commemorate; rely on your memories. Sometimes you may even fall into a frantic panicky mode - afraid that your memories will fade on you. Then you start to record down events, dreams, thoughts to fall back on. Gradually, you talk to yourself in your mind because it's just like sharing with them. You become self-reliant, independent because you are talking to yourself and getting the reply from 'inside' when it is supposed to be blurted out. At this point, you become a little imbalance in your hormones because this aspect is malnourished. You may be weird if you dare to admit it. Let's see if other ingredients are able to compensate this lack.

Friendship

Friends are great! Let's categorise them:

Acquaintance - relationship less intimate than friendship. Your relationship is brought together by a circumstance, place or situation. Once you isolate from these, the relationship ends as the foundation is not strong. For e.g. project mates, classmates, colleagues, your regular hair stylist, the char kuay teow uncle you patronise everyday.

Friend - a person whom you know, like, and trust. This relationship is not so superficial anymore. You don't only talk about tv drama, market, sale anymore. You touch on personal topics like family, BGR, gossips, dreams and wishes. You don't feel awkward about sharing them because you know they would be interested to know. You wouldn't be embarrassed to share your wildest fantasy too. You like to make fun of them as you know they won't be angry.

True Friend - a person whom you connect mentally, emotionally, physically with. You cry in front of her. You want to share the slightest nitty, gritty thing with them. Be it good news, bad news or no news, you want to call them to feel secured. You dare to shout at them, pin point their mistakes, quarrel heatedly because you know you would eventually make up with them without grudges. You won't bear to ignore them for more than half a day. You just feel uneasy if you do so. You treasure them and want to age gracefully together with them; play mahjong, high tea, talk about grandchild..

Generally, acquaintances will form 60%, friends 30% and true friends 10%. Quality beats Quantity! If you have a good handful of True Friends, your hormones can balance up a bit. They can compensate a limited extent of your lack in Family Love. As you must understand, they have their own family, social network, and work to run. They can't be around 24/7, maybe just 12/3. Most importantly, your Yin-Yang will be lopsided also because normally your true friends are your same gender. That's when you need Partner Love to balance up your Yin-Yang.

Partner Love

This can be provided by spouse, BF/GF or lover/mistress. To be in a BGR is a wonderful and blissful experience because your partner can give you tender loving care which no one can provide. For girl, your bf can dote on you, buy you flowers or gifts, fetch you around, sweet-talk you, kiss you, hug you.. and vice-versa. Fancy your friend/family member doing that to you?? **PUKE** That's why!! Your partner can accompany you around without grumbles because they are obligated, even with grumbles, they are also obligated! Mind you! They can be mobilised 24/7 too. They can make you into a pretty lady or a handsome man because this love is the best ingredient to make you glow, radiate, and cheer up. If family love is the foundation of a building, then this love will form the pillars ~ equally important.

So this aspect here must be adequate to balance up your Yin/Yang. So sometimes, you will hear comments like this spinster is very weird, men rarely because they can release their 'angst' at other places ya. No matter how strong, independent you are, you need this Love or you are not complete anymore. Don't believe, you try otherwise.

Spiritual Love

This can be said to be the most powerful love. If you can experience this spiritual love truthfully, you are as staunch as Eiffel Tower, nothing will daunt you! ~~ based on XXX's experience. If you lack this love, you won't have hormonal disorder nor Yin-Yang imbalance because GOD loves you! All you will feel is emptiness, that's all :)

Hence, now a question to ask yourself, to what percentage do the above 4 constitute YOU? Remember BALANCE, balance, BaLanCE!!!