shopaholic sucks to the max times 1,000,000,000,000,000,000 times!!

alright, i haven't forgotten my social obligation =) start the shit, end the shit ya. i was just kinda thinking who my audiences are. the last thing i wana is having some 'grey area' friends reading this blog.. and then link to some unknown communities whom perhaps i had associated shit with. anyway..

.. the name speaks for itself - he's just not that into u.. truth be told, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out this phrase, but.. which girl can actually sink in this harsh reality? it takes time and sure enough, experience. all the better, someone tells right into my face. here goes..

few mths back, i shared a little anecdote with my leader - yrs ago, i knew this guy with whom i shared similar interests, views and humour. we hanged out frequently and thgs looked promising (from my point of view! i thought!).. and so i thought we were developing when midway he jumped ship. (ok, i wasn't his anchor, but u guys got my point right?) simply, he faded away. at that point, my friends' arrows were all directed at this new girl. cursing, swearing, hating her for me. haha. thinking she 'snatched' him away from me. WOW!! SERIOUS BO?! i will hear thgs like "if it wasn't for her, you both would be tgt..blah blah.." and like all say - 'the rest was history...'

.. and so why did i bring this matter up to my leader? coz one day, he just asked me to share with him any random dream i could remember. so i told him i dreamt abt this guy. after my narration abt this guy and the happenings, he looked at me, gave me a heartfelt smile and said "haven't you think that all the while he wasn't interested to be with you?" harsh but straight to the point. immediately, i felt a tinge of soreness in my heart (obviously not coz of this guy! siao ah! that was stone age times) but due to the very face value of this sentence. rejection.

.. and nw i laugh at this. HA! u know when u were in that situation at that instance, is like u just went temporarily insane. u couldn't see. u didn't want to see. just imagine the tons of emotions spared in agony if someone had told me 'he's just not that into you.. move on.. or at least used the fuck-care attitude on him!'

it works! just 2 weeks ago, my friend was sharing with me about how her co-worker was giving her the 'blow hot-cold' attitude. both of them had been verbal-flirting - like the guy making use of his drunken-stupor state asking her 'what do u think of being my gf?' 'would u ever consider me?' 'do u mind me being younger than u' blah blah.. and so all these sent my interested friend in confusion.. and when girls are in confusion, they are like mathematicians, formulating many possible, impossible formulae, equating a reason for his every action. like my friend saying 'maybe he is afriad to commit coz he is younger? he feels intimidated by my position? his esteem is low? that's why he didn't dare profess..

i listened patiently, empathetically waiting for a chance to struck!!! HA HA HA! im not sadist or gloating lah! WL! so i told her sincerely 'maybe he's just not that into you?' he's young, he's outspoken, he tickles u every now n then with his childish flirts, WHY DO U THINK HE HASN'T THE COURAGE TO BE WITH YOU? i'm sure he isn't thinking of marriage so why the scare of commitment?! what commitment is there to think abt?????! just a simple BGR relationship first leh.

immediately she gave me an agreeing nod!!!!!!!!SEE! yes, she may not be withdrawing from this young chap any sooner, but will engage in an 曖昧 mode, abit of guessing game here and there, abit of time wasted, abit of flirting etc.. but at least i can say - the damage will be minimised.

i read that if you start a relationship somewhat being negative or pessimistic, it does not hurt if it indeed blossoms. on the contrary, if you are so full of hope and read too much into it, and later to have the guy disappear on u, it kills so much that a hole must be dugged up immediately for some real, serious hibernation. haha.

..to be continued..