No birthdays.........pls

I am terribly horribly afraid of all these happening to me. I am damn super scared of aging. I don't want to be 25 years old. I want to be 24 always! Time flies like a rocket with no yesterday, yester-year.. I thought I was just mugging for my Economics paper yesterday? I thought I was just giving tuition to my students this morning? I thought I was just watching 'Zhen Qing' last evening? GOSH! ARGHHHHH.......!!!! My feeling is indescribable, nobody understands. My peers think I am crazy. They are looking forward to age gracefully. That is the last thing I wana for myself!

Nevertheless my Birthday Wishes are NOT TO HAVE the followings:

Super Fears:

1. Aged

2. Grow old

3. No stamina to jog

4. Fat (Don't laugh; there's a difference b/w plump and fat!)

5. No money in bank accounts

6. Droopy butt, breasts

7. Cockroaches (be it small or big, crawl or fly)

8. Lizards (be it 20 cm or 20m away? eeekkksss ... yucks..)

9. Left on the shelf after age 30

10. Childless at age 30

11. No true friends to age with me (I need your support!!!)

12. Brain size gets smaller

13. Waist size gets bigger

14. Becoming a water barrel after child-birth

15. Husband is a stinko, fat and oily hahahaha

Pray for me k. Amen.

Ways to Eliminate Depressing Mood..

My fren wants me to write on the above topic coz she is feeling rather negative recently. I know what she is going through. Given her character - she is a joyful person, she wants to see the ppl around her prosper and cheerful together with her. She won't want to be a waterfall when all her friends are streams and rivers (this is what I think of her at least). She would be happy to excel but I'm sure she would be even HAPPIER that her friends excel together with her! - 1st remedy: Love yourself more then! One person responsible for one life :P

My fren has also made worrying her way of life. Worry about the yet-to-happen stuff. It is true that people worry about the unknown, about the uncertainty. When this 'ailment' strikes, we can only encourage ourselves that when that situation finally comes, we will have ample time to worry. Leave the worrying to that time at that circumstance; when you are at that situation already, you will realize that thg are not that bad, and everythg will still be under ur control. This happens most of the time, as when we worry, we tend to enlarge the worst case scenario. Humans are pessimist by nature. - 2nd remedy: Love yourself more again! Things happen with or without you worrying.

My friend is also experiencing quarter-life career crisis. This is the lull period. Working is basically a learning curve. You learn the ropes, you manoevre through, you excel, you get tired, you have no motivation, because this job no longer excites you. You begin searching for a deeper, meaningful purpose in what you are doing. What I can say is that don't focus on the nitty gritty details in what you are doing now - like what you are working as, ur environment, ur job scope, ur colleagues, industry etc.. You will bound to move out and move on. You will know it when the time comes ~ Holy spirits (angels) will tell you or what people label as Human Basic Intuition. Instead focus on the big picture - what you ultimately want to become, in person and in character. For instance, super career woman heading an MNC, lady boss in a theme restaurant, tai-tai having high tea with friends etc? OR be your own boss, work for family, stay at hm and take care of family etc? Just agar agar know what you want. VISUALISE! The rest are details and faith. - 3rd Remedy: Love yourself again a little bit more! When GOD wants to prosper you, do you think you can dodge?

So, in conclusion, love yourself and it is A CHOICE.

Other tips to reducing depressing mood:

1. Talk nonsense and irritate people

2. Tell cold jokes or riddles to people e.g. which milk (Gu Ni) can't people drink? Karang Guni

3. Laugh at irritated facial expressions

4. Gossip and bitch to pour out inner frustrations

5. Scold vulgarities coz sometimes only these words can truly describe your frustrations

6. Tell people off straight in the face if what they did simply irritates you

7. Pin point other people's shortcomings within yourself to assure you are not that lousy

8. Be sarcastic

9. Be generous in your praises

10. Give exaggerated verbal and facial expressions like giving a hard, cold stare .i.e. DIAO!

Written for genie in a bottle.

H.A.P.P.I.N.E.S.S being a choice...

I read this meaningful phrase recently - "If you had to be the person you are today for the rest of your life, would you be happy? If the answer is 'Absolutely!' keep up the good work. But if the answer is 'Maybe' - or, for that matter, an outright 'No' - then it's time to take responsibility for your future...and it's time to start making changes NOW."

So ask yourself this question NOW - "Are you happy at this moment? Do you feel fulfiled?"

Actually happiness is not who we are or how much we have or earn. Many a times, we are too worldly, too easily influenced and contaminated by superficial, material possessions. I would want to have an LV bag, drives a mercedes, lives in 6th Ave. This thought alone will show that we are unhappy because we will never be satisfied. "Think about this: If you are earning $3,000, would you want to earn $4,000 in another year?" This is going to be like a ferris wheel, always going round and round in motion. So unless we find peace within and choose to be happy, we will forever be unhappy in one time or another.

Happiness is then actually a choice. You can be happy if you choose to. Your mind controls your feelings. For instance, a cancer patient - the cancerous cells in the body is a constant, a fact, a reality. How is it that two cancer patients with same condition has one of them being optimistic and happy, the other is a pessimist and fatalistic. It is a matter of choice right? And most often than not, the optimistic and happy one is the one who recovers better or rather who dies happier. Why is it that the happy one can be happy? Foremostly, I'm sure the reason is because she has resigned her fate to the hands of GOD. No matter what happens, it's GOD's will. Do you think you have a mightier pair of hands than GOD to control your own life and death? If yes, everyone would live to a ripe old age. Since you have no control over a situation, don't you think the best way is to rest in the laurels of GOD? What we can do is to do the best within our means and might, the rest is faith.

So don't despair if you can't get the job (who promises you this is the best job available for you), this man doesn't like you (who promises you he's the best man to walk down the isle with you), you don't get promoted (who promises you this status is eternal)... Everything happens for a reason as long as you believe.

Happiness is a choice!!!

Think about this..

If you had put a-dollar coin into a coin bank everyday since the day you were born, and each time you saved a thousand, you deposit into a savings account earning 0.25% p.a. you would have close to $10,000 by now (assuming you are 25 yrs old). This is aside from all your Ang-Bao money, holiday job savings, and your full time job salaries.

Everyone can achieve their financial objectives sooner than expected.

However, there is always a 'BUT', a 'SALE', a 'BARGAIN'. Materialism is in everyone of us! Kindly just admit it. Do you upgrade your hp, laptop, MP3 player? Do you upgrade from 'Outdoor' to 'Elle' to 'Esprit' to 'Burberry'? We are always prompt in gratifying ourselves.

Everyone will say "What's the point of working so hard if I can't even pamper myself?" Correct! You are not alone. Why don't you ask yourself this qn too - "What's the point of working so hard if at the end of the day you have no financial freedom i.e. you have no cash in your savings account?" You are working hard because you are a slave towards your car, your house, your credit card bills, your hire purchase, your indulgence.

I read a lot of financial articles and related books, they share one common idea. The key to having wealth is through savings, and consequently investments. It's not through the amount of money you earned, as you earn more, you spend more. I am real serious. I am a victim in this circumstance. So my resolution is to not indulge in extravagant spendings and luxuries anymore. I pray that I will have the discipline whatsoever to realize this goal.

My new br ~ B.M

Haven't been blogging for 1mth plus, generally is because I am still settling down in my new br. I am still not settled down, sad to say; presumably coz I don't quite like the br. Firstly, the customer base here is OLD! I can't bring myself to present a financial product to someone whom can only absorb 1/4 of what I am talking about. Also, they practise selective listening e.g. they can only remember 1st yr fixed interest, shortest possible tenor and potential best payout. They cannot remember the longest tenor, worst case senario etc. Yes, some bankers choose to conceal these info. I can understand, but for me I would rather want a customer who has the sanity and sensibility to ask me about the potential drawbacks involved! I only get job satisfaction if customer is fully aware of the potential drawbacks and yet is convinced and trust to accept my suggestion! I am not a selling machine!

Secondly, the colleagues here do not exibit the slightest bit of customer orientation. Their service sux! Imagine a CSO displaying impatience when customer does not quite understand our many types of accounts. I am so embarrassed by her actions! Neighbourhood br is not an excuse for such service!

I guess I am too used to the crowd at T*. Customers asking more questions and understanding what is the best and worst circumstance for them. Furthermore, they are wealthier and can stomach the risk involved and have longer time horizon.

How? How?